Attraction Mind Map

In the Silva method workshop that I attended a few weeks back, I went through a technique called Mental Housecleaning.  This is a particularly useful technique for anyone who tends to be negative.  Of course, being aware that we are negative in the first place helps. For this technique, we learn that we need to catch ourselves when we say a negative word or statement by saying “cancel cancel cancel”. A positive word or statement needs to be followed up after that.

I’ve quite forgotten about this technique since there was quite a lot of information to digest during the 3-day Silva method workshop.  However, facing some negativity the past 2 days triggered my memory. 

The “cancel cancel cancel” technique would be useful to help my younger daugther, Min.  I’m facing some challenges with helping her enjoy reading. Min has always find reading “difficult”.  She loves being read to but when asked to read a simple book, her reply is invariably “it’s too difficult”, even though I know that she is capable of reading most of it, if not all.  Her challenge is not one of capability but more one of having an emotional block on reading.

Previously, both my husband and I have tried to ask her to say “I will try”.  But according to the Silva method, as I found out today and upon reviewing my notes, that the word “try” is a negative word. The word “try” is negative because it may be that one tries but never get it done.  The question is that have you ever tried to pick up a penny?  Of course not.  You just do it.

Like Nike.

Learning how important our choice of words is has made us more mindful about what we say in front of our kids.  We are sure we do not want to use words like “stupid” or “dumb” around them.  It will be sad if they get negatively programmed if we use the wrong choice of words. Negative programming can hurt them for their entire lives.  

Having said that, we ourselves have suffered from negative words and programming from the adults around when we were young.  Hence, we do catch ourselves making an unintentional slip every once in a while or from not knowing any better (like the word “try” for instance).

The solution if we make that occassional slip?  Say “cancel cancel cancel” and help our kids or ourselves follow with the words “I’ll do it” or something else positive and then imagine or visualise for a good outcome.

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